We Said 2018 Sucked, 2020 Said Hold My Beer.

Sometimes my lack of blogging is annoying. It’s like working out, or keeping that countertop space clear, where you SAY this time you’ll make it a habit, and have every intention of doing so, but somehow just never quite get to it. Work gets busy, other people in the house keep throwing their crap there after you’ve just cleaned it up(OMG, will you STAAAHHHPPP doing that!), and after a while other things become priority. Before you know if you just feel guilty when you think about it, and then you kind of give up. Bump that to the next year’s resolution list. Next year for sure. We got this.

This time, it’s almost comical looking back. Not in a ‘hahahaha’ funny kind of way. In the way you laugh at something really awful, because sometimes a morbid joke is better than breaking down crying. Tears can make you feel hopeless. A laugh, no matter how grim, says if nothing else, at least we have our sense of humor. 2018 was job stress. In 2020 people died. A lot of them.

2020 has been the year of Covid.

Back in mid-January we started to hear about a respiratory illness spreading in China. Not much was being reported, and it sounded like a variation of the flu. A more virulent, easily spreadable flu, but contained to a very small area of China. By the end of January there were reports of isolated cases and some small clusters of outbreaks in 18 other countries. While they found a few single cases among travelers in the US at that time, it didn’t start to hit most people’s radars until there was an outbreak on a cruise ship in early March. At this point some of us began watching the numbers daily, because it was fascinating to watch the exponential spread happen on the dashboards just like in any pandemic or zombie movie. There had been some deaths by then, but not many, and a lot about the virus was still unknown.

By mid-March, it was becoming apparent this would not be contained easily, and those of us who could found ourselves working remotely, schools shut down and went virtual, and a lot of restrictions came regarding restaurants, stores, gyms, bars and other places that held groups of people. We were encouraged to wear masks when we left the house, though at first that was optional. That proved to be a huge mistake. The closures were inconsistent, the message from government was that this was not a big deal, and that led to a lot of feeling(mostly from conservatives in this country) that the entire thing was a huge over-reaction, and a big conspiracy for the government to ‘control people’s lives’. As such people continued to socialize, restrictions were flaunted, and the virus continued to spread.

As I write this, we are in the second wave, and we stand at 317,929 for the US Covid-19 death count so far, with the numbers growing exponentially every day. For comparison, we typically lose 34k a year to the flu, and we are currently trending at about 4k deaths a day from this. So many people I know have lost friends and loved ones, and people losing multiple family members is no longer uncommon. Most people who get the virus tend to be asymptomatic, or get a very mild case. That unfortunately seems to fuel the theories that it’s no big deal. And it’s true that most people recover completely. The most at risk seem to be the elderly and people with things like asthma, diabetes, etc. It’s equally true that a LOT of otherwise healthy young people have died, or become ‘long haulers’ who require oxygen supplementation several months out just to function. Strokes, heart attacks, blood clots…not uncommon in healthy 20 to 40-somethings with this virus. Still many continue to deny that it’s anything more than the flu, refuse to wear masks, and fight against the restrictions that have helped many other countries get this under control.

The upside to all this is that two vaccines have just been approved and are starting to be rolled out. There are a lot of hiccups happening with that, and they won’t be widely available to the general public until probably late spring, although health officials are trying their best to get it out faster, a goal we hope will be more easily attained with the incoming Biden administration. Only time will tell.

A Note to Readers, This is About to Get Ugly.

Hey guys, just wanted to drop a quick note and warn you things are about to get nasty around here.

My blog, that is.

With my last post, I came to the realization that I had made the huge, HUGE mistake of basically letting Facebook have the best of my pictures, posts and thoughts over the last 5 years or so. Those of us who have been around awhile know that NO site is ever “too big to fail”, and that the content we think a service will host forever can be gone tomorrow. (Don’t believe me? Drop me a link to your Angelfire or AOL site in the comments…)

In an effort to re-center and re-prioritize, I am going to be moving the bulk of that content back here over the next couple of weeks. Not everything, maybe not even most of it, but all the little bits and pieces that probably should have been here to start with – the photos, the triumphs, the good days and the bad.

Paul assures me with the nifty stealth post plug-in he has installed, so long as I check a box before I hit publish, these backdated posts should NOT get sent to my feed. While I don’t think many people are still using feed readers, there are lots of people who still gets these posts by email, and I don’t want to flood anyone’s inboxes in the process. If something slips through, please let me know.

In the meantime excuse the mess as I attempt to fill in the gaps, and bring this place back to life. It’s been neglected for too long, and for that I’m sorry. You guys are worth it, and just as importantly, I am worth it.

Let’s get this party started y’all.

Back to It…Almost.

Me this weekend: “I’m going to start blogging again!”
Paul: “Fantastic!”
Proceeds to update my WordPress, plugins, install new theme, etc for me.
Me : “Great, as soon as the kids are down I’m going to start working on it!”
Paul: “I’ll get Scarlett down tonight so you can get at it!” ♥️
Me: “Great, let’s do this!”

Nobody Reads Blogs Anymore.

“Share your story here” so prompts the text box in the WordPress app on my phone. The box that has been teasing and tormenting me for months, as I keep telling myself I need to get back to blogging, but then life gets in the way, and let’s face it, nobody reads blogs anymore.


Blogging used to be such a huge part of my life. It was how I told my stories, how I made my friends, and in general how I shared the joys and frustrations of marriage and parenthood and life as a whole, as twisty and ugly as that road sometimes got. I’ve never been afraid to lay it all out there.

Somewhere along the way, Facebook came in, and like a manipulative, selfish lover, she took over. The blogging community embraced her as a way to get our posts out there, an easy directory for those friends and family who would never use feed readers and such. Yet as time went on, it seemed so much easier to just start keeping those memories there, and skip the blog altogether. That’s where everyone was, so it just made sense. Our kids were getting older, our lives were getting more demanding, and our own sites were just one more demand to keep up with; one more monthly bill to pay.

Share your story here.

I woke up at 3:20am in excruciating, migraine-level pain. I have pneumonia, and it took me a few minutes to grasp that I wasn’t going to die of meningitis(my first thought upon waking), but rather that the coughing I have vague recollections of after going to bed were the cause of the misery I was in with my chest, neck and head. I got up, medicated, and sat in the dark to wait it out.

It’s as I sit here now, with the pain nearly subsided, that I realize how wrong I’ve been. My photos, my thoughts…all of it should have been here. I chose ease over ownership, and should Facebook die tomorrow (remember Myspace?) years of memories would be lost. Facebook gives us easy connections, but in the end she will eventually move on, and we will realize how much we invested and how little the return.

Share your story here.

I think it’s time to come back. I have so many wonderful photos and thoughts and memories of the last 5 years or so I don’t want to lose, and that should have been here, under my roof, all along. It’s time to bring it all back, so when Facebook eventually topples and the next big thing comes along, those pieces of me and mine aren’t lost.

Nobody reads blogs anymore, but that doesn’t really matter. It’s not the sharing of the history that is important, but the keeping of it. Our history is our own, and for the blogger, our site is home.

It’s time to go home. That is where our stories belong.