A Note to Readers, This is About to Get Ugly.

Hey guys, just wanted to drop a quick note and warn you things are about to get nasty around here.

My blog, that is.

With my last post, I came to the realization that I had made the huge, HUGE mistake of basically letting Facebook have the best of my pictures, posts and thoughts over the last 5 years or so. Those of us who have been around awhile know that NO site is ever “too big to fail”, and that the content we think a service will host forever can be gone tomorrow. (Don’t believe me? Drop me a link to your Angelfire or AOL site in the comments…)

In an effort to re-center and re-prioritize, I am going to be moving the bulk of that content back here over the next couple of weeks. Not everything, maybe not even most of it, but all the little bits and pieces that probably should have been here to start with – the photos, the triumphs, the good days and the bad.

Paul assures me with the nifty stealth post plug-in he has installed, so long as I check a box before I hit publish, these backdated posts should NOT get sent to my feed. While I don’t think many people are still using feed readers, there are lots of people who still gets these posts by email, and I don’t want to flood anyone’s inboxes in the process. If something slips through, please let me know.

In the meantime excuse the mess as I attempt to fill in the gaps, and bring this place back to life. It’s been neglected for too long, and for that I’m sorry. You guys are worth it, and just as importantly, I am worth it.

Let’s get this party started y’all.

Back to It…Almost.

Me this weekend: “I’m going to start blogging again!”
Paul: “Fantastic!”
Proceeds to update my WordPress, plugins, install new theme, etc for me.
Me : “Great, as soon as the kids are down I’m going to start working on it!”
Paul: “I’ll get Scarlett down tonight so you can get at it!” ♥️
Me: “Great, let’s do this!”

Nobody Reads Blogs Anymore.

“Share your story here” so prompts the text box in the WordPress app on my phone. The box that has been teasing and tormenting me for months, as I keep telling myself I need to get back to blogging, but then life gets in the way, and let’s face it, nobody reads blogs anymore.


Blogging used to be such a huge part of my life. It was how I told my stories, how I made my friends, and in general how I shared the joys and frustrations of marriage and parenthood and life as a whole, as twisty and ugly as that road sometimes got. I’ve never been afraid to lay it all out there.

Somewhere along the way, Facebook came in, and like a manipulative, selfish lover, she took over. The blogging community embraced her as a way to get our posts out there, an easy directory for those friends and family who would never use feed readers and such. Yet as time went on, it seemed so much easier to just start keeping those memories there, and skip the blog altogether. That’s where everyone was, so it just made sense. Our kids were getting older, our lives were getting more demanding, and our own sites were just one more demand to keep up with; one more monthly bill to pay.

Share your story here.

I woke up at 3:20am in excruciating, migraine-level pain. I have pneumonia, and it took me a few minutes to grasp that I wasn’t going to die of meningitis(my first thought upon waking), but rather that the coughing I have vague recollections of after going to bed were the cause of the misery I was in with my chest, neck and head. I got up, medicated, and sat in the dark to wait it out.

It’s as I sit here now, with the pain nearly subsided, that I realize how wrong I’ve been. My photos, my thoughts…all of it should have been here. I chose ease over ownership, and should Facebook die tomorrow (remember Myspace?) years of memories would be lost. Facebook gives us easy connections, but in the end she will eventually move on, and we will realize how much we invested and how little the return.

Share your story here.

I think it’s time to come back. I have so many wonderful photos and thoughts and memories of the last 5 years or so I don’t want to lose, and that should have been here, under my roof, all along. It’s time to bring it all back, so when Facebook eventually topples and the next big thing comes along, those pieces of me and mine aren’t lost.

Nobody reads blogs anymore, but that doesn’t really matter. It’s not the sharing of the history that is important, but the keeping of it. Our history is our own, and for the blogger, our site is home.

It’s time to go home. That is where our stories belong.

10 Years???

10 years ago today some random living in Denmark called me out in a blog post over some stupid internet drama. I thought he was pompous and annoying, and gave him the politest ‘fuck you’ reply I could think of, never expecting(or wanting) to see his name again.

As I write this we are close to celebrating our 7 year wedding anniversary, and I thank the universe every day I get to wake up next to him 

Thank you Paul O’Flaherty for more than I could ever put into words.