Recently it was pointed out that (paraphrasing) a true measure of a person’s ethics is what they do when they think no one is looking.
This weighed heavily on my mind as another message board drama ensued, the basis of it being people gossiping about a former member who no longer had access to that board. A person who felt they were still friends with the majority of the current members, particularly those who were talking about her.
When it was discovered, no one piped up with “Damn, we shouldn’t have talked about her like that”. Most did not express regret, although one did email her and apologize. Instead there was shock and outrage, wanting to know how she figured out she was being talked about.
There was more concern with the state of security of the board than there was for the feelings of the target of the gossip. 😯
For once I feel like I did the right thing- I left. They are not bad people, but the behavior is not something I want to be a part of or associated with. I’m sure I am losing a friendship or three by leaving, and I know I will be the next to be talked about.
Better that than having to worry if people will find out what I said about them behind passworded forums.
We all indulge in our share of juvenile behavior now and then, I think I’ll stick to raising Sea Monkeys.