The Wedding The Internet Talked About

When Paul and I got engaged, he popped the question at a Tweetup. Surrounded by geeks with camera phones, we got incredibly lucky that one of them happened to record it for us.

When it came time to plan the wedding, continuing the Twitter theme seemed like the most normal thing in the world to us, and there was no question that the event would have to be livestreamed.

On June 19th 2010 at 4pm we gathered together our family and Twitter friends for ceremony, the likes of which NO ONE had ever seen before. (Transcript below the video, thanks Paul for the formatting!)

Officiant: Good afternoon. Sara and Paul would like to thank everyone for joining them here on this beautiful day to share in their celebration and welcome you no matter where you come from, whether you’re here with us in Bienville Square, or joining us online.

Connections between people are a powerful thing, and the connections that people forge via the Internet can be the spark that creates lasting and wonderful real-life relationships. Most of you here know each other because of the Internet, and there can be no greater testament to those connections than the occasion we are here to witness today- the joining of two people who have weathered two years of trial and distance in order to be together. Two people who have literally changed their worlds, and could not have done it without the support of their friends, and the wonders of modern technology.

Some would call them insane, others might call them crazy. (Some have called them far worse, and if I wasn’t getting paid for this, I probably would too…) Whatever you call it, their stubborn natures, along with the internet, have been the force behind their pulling off this Lifehack of epic proportions.

Paul would you take Sara’s hand and repeat after me…

I Paul take you Sara to be my wife,
My lover and my best friend always.
To love you, to follow you,
To stumble and to retweet,
To share, support and encourage
Even when your ego rivals my own.
To fix your computers and maintain your blog
Until such time as my hard drive permanently gives up the ghost.
I promise to always be faithful to you
And help you achieve your goals
And that which makes you happy in life
And to make your dreams my own.
I promise to share my gadgets and hosting
In the same way I share my body and heart
And to be beside you online and off,
To infinty and beyond.

Sara, would you repeat after me…

I Sara take you Paul to be my husband,
My lover, and my best friend always.
To follow you, friend you,
And always comment on your blog posts, even when I don’t agree with them.
To pretend to listen when you rant,
To wear lingerie when you· ask,
And to not complain when you play Call of Duty with your friends.
I promise to put nothing else before you,
And to always ensure you are at the top of my contacts.
I promise to love you, to be faithful to you,
And to be your muse and your partner in all things, online and off,
To infinity and beyond.

Paul, take Sara’s ring and place it on her finger and repeat after me:

Just as this circle is without end,
My love for you is never-ending.
With this ring, I take you to be my partner for life.

Sara, take Paul’s ring and place it on his finger and repeat after me:

Just as this circle is without end,
My love for you is never-ending.
With this ring, I take you to be my partner for life.


Officiant: Know now that since your lives have crossed, you have formed ties between each other. The promises you make today and the ties that are bound here will cross the years and will greatly strengthen your union. With full awareness, know that you declare your intent to be handfasted before your friends and family. Do you still seek to enter this ceremony?

Sara & Paul: We do.

Officiant: I bid you look into each others eyes.

Will you share yourselves freely and generously with each other, making time to be together?

Sara & Paul: We will.

Officiant: The first binding is thus made with dark blue, symbolic of Water, that your love may flow and fill you to your depths.

(The dark blue cord is draped over the couple’s hands.)

Will you each seek to ease the other’s pain and suffering, sharing laughter and joy?

Sara & Paul: We will.

Officiant: The second binding is thus made with green, symbolic of Earth, that your love may be wise and nurturing, and your happiness abundant.

(The green cord is draped over the couple’s hands.)

Will you strive to keep your romance alive through daily actions and words of encouragement?

Sara & Paul: We will.

Officiant: “The third binding is thus made with red, symbolic of Fire, that your love may be bright and passionate.

(The red cord is draped over the couple’s hands.)

Will you both help each other to grow in spirit and wisdom?

Sara & Paul: We will.

Officiant: The fourth binding is thus made with light blue, symbolic of Air, that your love may be as limitless as the sky, and filled with spirit.

(The light blue cord is draped over the couple’s hands. All four cords are tied together.)

You are now bound together, your two lives joined by love and trust into one life.

The knots of this binding are not formed by these chords, but rather by your vows. For as always, you hold in your own hands the making or breaking of this union.

In as much as you have sealed your vows in the presence of those gathered here and online, by the giving of rings and have consented together to live in marriage, it gives me much pleasure to pronounce that you are now Husband and Wife.

You sir have just signed your life away, you may now kiss your bride.

(Special thanks to E. J. Campfield of NonReligiousWeddings.com who presided over the ceremony.)

Its a Twitter Wedding, And You Are Invited!

When Paul and I first met online, we clashed over a blog post. We had no idea that one disagreement would rock our worlds and change our lives so dramatically. Disagreement led to friendship, which led to something neither of us had ever felt before, and we knew we’d found something that despite circumstance and 4,000 miles of distance, couldn’t be denied. We pushed ahead, often precariously, in a relationship that friends called both inspiring, and absolutely nuts. We fought often, breaking up and making up with equal intensity, and exhausting ourselves and our loved ones in the process. We drove each other crazy, but we loved each other too much to be apart.

Now, after two long, wonderful, heart-wrenching, how-the-hell-did-we-ever-survive-it years of Skype calls and teary airport goodbyes, we are finally getting married.

In just one week, we will be exchanging our vows in the only way we could imagine- completely, totally, uniquely…us. He’s Irish. I’m American. We share an offbeat sense of fun, and an often-offensive humor website. We got engaged at a Tweetup. We have proven we will go to hell and back to live life on our own terms. How do two people like this plan a wedding?

A purple dress. A kilt. A best man who is *all* woman. Live-streaming and live-tweeting. A Twitter-themed-pot-luck-pool-party-reception. Rock Band. A pinata. A sex toy toss in place of the bouquet.

It’s going to be one hell of a party, and we want you to join us! Tune in here on Suburban Oblivion next Saturday at 4pm Central time to catch the whole event live, as it happens.

For better or worse, we are finally making it happen.

Update- Looks like the media is starting to take notice of our rather offbeat plans!

CNET covers the story-


ReadWriteWeb’s take..

The Blog Herald..

Paul Proposed Last Night (Video)

A bunch of Twitter locals get together for a Tweetup, something cool happens and someone catches it on their iPhone, video is uploaded to Youtube and people are tweeting it within minutes.

It may be the epitome of geeky, but when Paul proposed last night with many of our close friends there to share in the moment, that’s exactly what happened. Thanks to Alli recording the video and Chris taking pictures, we have a beautiful visual record of what many often don’t, and we are able to share that with those we wish could have been there with us (Amanda and Christy especially, miss you guys!) but couldn’t.

Paul popping the question as twitter locals share in the moment.

The actual capturing of the video was incredibly lucky, because he hadn’t told anyone he was going to ask last night. He did however start his speech with something along the lines of us ‘never breaking up again’ or something to that effect, and Allie decided just being a smartass that she needed to get that statement on video. We are so glad she did!

Since we are anything but traditional, you know the ring had to be different as well. Instead of a diamond solitaire, the center stone is an emerald (he’s from Ireland, and we met in May) with emerald-cut diamonds on either side. Stunning! 🙂


Thank you so very much to everyone who was here to share in the moment last night, and to all of our friends who couldn’t be here but have sent their well-wishes via Twitter, Facebook and email.

Most of all thank you to Paul, my wonderful, sweet, pain in the ass husband-to-be for making the moment so special. This has been so hard-earned for us, but so worth it. I love you.