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The (Non-Instagrammed) Face of 36

Happy Birthday to me!

I decided to post a birthday selfie because it’s my birthday and why the hell not?

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I used to think 36 was pretty old, but being here myself now, I can say it may be tiring in a ‘4 months pregnant and have a toddler’ kind of way, but I don’t feel the slightest bit old.

It’s weird to think I’ve been wearing contacts for 20 years, driving for 20 years, and had the same best friend for 29 years(when did that happen???). I have a daughter who will be 17 in 6 months. 20 years ago I was only 3 years away from having my first baby, now I’m 6 months away from having my last. All that says I should probably feel pretty damn old, but I don’t.

What I do feel is lucky. I always thought that 30 was one of the biggest milestones, but my life is full of love in ways I never knew possible 6 years ago – the love of a man who literally moved across the world for me, the love of my kids who keep me laughing regularly, and the love of friends that have stood by me through good times and bad.

The next year looks to be bringing changes and challenges, and I look forward to every busy minute of it, hopefully getting to spend even more time with family and friends.

2014 Already?

2014
Wait, it’s what date???

Yeah, that kind of sums up 2013 for me. Malcolm Tennant made his fairly dramatic arrival on August 2nd, and once that happened life just became a bit of a whirlwind and I had a hard time catching my breath. He’s an incredibly easy, happy baby, but even having the Happiest Baby Ever has been a big adjustment. I went back to work at the end of October, and after that it was like the holidays just came from out of nowhere, catching me completely off guard. Thank goodness for wine and Amazon Prime is all I can say.

I want to think that life will settle down in 2014, but Paul and I have decided to take the plunge and have one more baby, and as I’m not exactly getting any younger, the plan is to do it soon. Like, as soon as possible soon. Given how difficult the small age gap(17 months) was with my older boys, the irony of again wanting 2 under 2 again is not lost on me. If Paul hadn’t turned out to be such a natural at the daddy thing I’d probably be ready to stop with Malcolm, but he has absolutely amazed me at every step, being as hands-on and willing to be involved as a guy could possibly be. Quite literally the only thing he doesn’t do with him that I do is breastfeed, and that’s only for lack of equipment. (It has been such a refreshing change from the “Well, I can’t feed them so I can’t really help” attitude of my last marriage.)

With that in mind, I am NOT resolving to lose weight in 2014. I met my goal of losing the baby weight in 2013(plus a few which I promptly gained back over the holidays), and I was happy with that. I’d like to work on getting myself healthier for the next pregnancy, but I feel like anything more will probably be setting myself up for failure.

With Malcolm finally getting to the point of not hating the car so much I’d like for us to start getting out more again. Mardi Gras is on the horizon, and I was too tired to do any parades last year, so that’s a big goal for this time. I miss the trips to the mall, and spontaneous jaunts to Pensacola and trips to Birmingham. I also want to see more of our friends this year.

The usual goal of reading more and getting organized still stand, and this year I am adding the desire to spend less time on menial tasks like grocery shopping. Better meal planning means less trips to the store, and I am setting up Amazon subscriptions to have the non-food items we often forget delivered to the house on a monthly basis. I swear at least 50% of our after-work trips to Walmart are for things like cat food and toilet paper! Having them sent to us regularly should mean less trips out and less money spent on impulse items.

There’s probably a few more I could add, but keeping it simple worked for me last year, and hopefully will this year as well. Hope everyone has a healthy, happy New Year!