Almost exactly a year ago, I lost my internet for two days. As the much-forwarded cartoon goes, ‘I love my computer because my friends are in there’, so I admit I had a hard time with those 48 hours of no contact. There was a huge sense of relief when everyone was back at my fingertips again.

Coming off almost a full month of forced WWW-abstinence(no, it wasn’t given back, I had my own line set up), there is little such relief this time. Circumstances here have changed so much in the last month my head is still spinning. The hum-drum of suburban existence has been replaced with daily fights, constant worry, and that annoying fear of change. That’s one fear I’m going to have to get over soon, because the changes are only just beginning.

Some changes I’m not sure will be liked, and this is something that will be affecting my readers. I have found myself cut off from more than the internet, as the paychecks seem to be going to a different bank account now, and I no longer have any access at all to any cash. With a credit card bill and cell phone bill to pay monthly(who knows what will be next) I’ve got to do something to start bringing in some money for myself. So, my hopefully-patient friends, I will be selling out and starting to do some paid reviews here on Suburban Oblivion. I have always stayed away from these things in the past, not wanting to distract myself or my readers from what we all come here for- a bit of a laugh, and a feeling of “Yep, I’ve been there too!”. I promise I’ll do my best to keep the paid content clearly marked and as few and far between as circumstances will allow.

On a brighter note, not all of the change is bad. When I posted last year about turning 29, I ended it by saying

The French have a saying that life is too short to eat bad food or drink bad wine. It has taken me till 29 to grasp this, and I plan to not only embrace it, but revel in it.

At that time I had no idea how true it would end up being. No clue how I was about to make a series of decisions that has dumped me into both a train wreck of a divorce, and an amazing journey of self-discovery. I am learning more every day about who I am and what I want, the value of the friends who have rallied close, and to have that feeling that as hard as all this is now, I know I am on the path I am meant to be on. That in the end, things will be as they should.

Around my last days of being 29, I will be starting fresh in many more ways than I ever anticipated. I don’t know that my days of bad food and bad wine are over just yet, but I do know 30 isn’t looking half bad after all.

31 Comments on When Life Hands You Lemons, Hand Them Back and Demand Good Wine

  1. Paul
    June 1, 2008 at 4:02 am (9 years ago)

    Sara, with all that is going on I know that your readers will forgive and tolerate more than a few paid reviews. Your writing style and personality ensures that, even with paid reviews, that we know the opinion given is honest and how you actually feel about what you’re reviewing.

    You do whatever you need to do to get through this and we, your friends and readers, will do whatever we can to support you.

    If I had a glass of wine right now I’d raise and make a toast to “30 and all the joy and fresh beginnings it holds”.

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  2. Diane
    June 1, 2008 at 5:46 am (9 years ago)

    These are the times of your life that you will realize how truly strong you are, and what you are capable of it. You learn who your true friends are and who your fair weather friends are.What a better time to start fresh and learn these life lessons then at the beginning of your 30’s. You know what they say 30 is the new 20.

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  3. Mrs. Who
    June 1, 2008 at 6:28 am (9 years ago)

    I’m so sorry for what you are going through but it sounds like you are doing a great job handling it all. Please keep us updated on what is happening; there are many of us who read regularly but don’t comment much as happens often in the blogging world. As a librarian, I have to tell you there is free Internet access at the public library. Check it out. Good luck!

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  4. Assertagirl
    June 1, 2008 at 6:57 am (9 years ago)

    I hope you’re doing okay, Sara, and it sounds like you have amazing perspective on what’s happening in your life these days. Your readers care about YOU, and I’m sure a few paid reviews here and there aren’t going to affect that connection you have with them (us).

    Take care of yourself.

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  5. VDog
    June 1, 2008 at 8:06 am (9 years ago)

    Pimp yo’self, gurl! Do what ya gotta do.

    Good luck and best wishes with all the family drama.

    I have a feeling you’re gonna pull out just fine.

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  6. Rhonda
    June 1, 2008 at 9:32 am (9 years ago)

    30 is really not so bad.

    I’m really happy you are back online and if you need anything at all I’m here.

    I can’t wait to read your reviews, I’m sure they will be just as entertaining as everything else you write.

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  7. Natalie
    June 1, 2008 at 12:37 pm (9 years ago)

    Diane pretty much summed up what I was going to say, especially when it comes to finding out who your friends really are.

    I’ve missed having you online, I’m so glad you are back.

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  8. Jackie
    June 1, 2008 at 5:03 pm (9 years ago)

    I’m so sorry for all that you are going through right now. Of course we don’t mind a couple of paid reviews. I’ll click on whatever you tell me to click on, Sara! Stay strong and keep up the good attitude!

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  9. Suebob
    June 1, 2008 at 5:08 pm (9 years ago)

    You might even consider putting up a donation button. I know a troll or three will throw a fit, but other nice ppl might consider easing your way a bit during this turbulent time.

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  10. jane - pinks & blues
    June 1, 2008 at 8:51 pm (9 years ago)

    You do what you have to do, girl! We’ll still be here to read and love you, paid posts or not!

    Sending virtual hugs,
    Jane

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  11. Rachael
    June 1, 2008 at 10:43 pm (9 years ago)

    I just started reading you a few weeks or a month before this forced absence and nasty divorce situation. I can tell you that I’ll keep reading, and I might even buy some stuff you review if you say it’s worth it! Do what you have to do to get yourself on track – we don’t mind! Here’s to a much better year!

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  12. CharmingDriver
    June 2, 2008 at 5:12 am (9 years ago)

    You do you – Take care of yourself – Anyone who minds doesn’t matter and those who matter won’t mind – Hugs.

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  13. Rita
    June 2, 2008 at 6:38 am (9 years ago)

    Sure, slap on a few paid reviews! I’m just glad you are writing again, I’ve been waiting with baited breath to find out more of what’s going on with you.

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  14. Jackie G
    June 2, 2008 at 7:25 am (9 years ago)

    *hugsss* I feel bad I had not been keeping up here. Now I REALLY feel bad. 🙁 If you ever want to talk, give me a call. My cell phone # is still the same. I’m thinking of you girl. 🙁

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  15. Cate
    June 2, 2008 at 9:55 am (9 years ago)

    first of all, i want to hop on a plane, head south and wrap my arms around you! however, since i’m broke, i can’t…so just imagine a 5’10” bald chick running towards you at top speed to give you a huge hug! wow…that’s an image! 😉

    secondly, i don’t think you are selling out by doing paid reviews. you know what? we all do what we gotta do. some people think that personal blogs shouldn’t have ads on them…i say, if you need the money, go for it. if people like your blog, ads aren’t going to stop them…and neither are paid reviews. we’ll love ya no matter what.

    i’m so sorry that you are having to go through this, but i’m glad that you are able to see something positive coming out of it…even if it might take a while to get there.

    *huge bald-chick hugs*

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  16. ali
    June 2, 2008 at 11:42 am (9 years ago)

    30 is great. trust me 😉

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  17. Jamie E
    June 2, 2008 at 12:23 pm (9 years ago)

    so, me being a vindictive type girl….in your situation I might be inclined to put every bill in his name while you still can and let him pay them since he is also hording the $$ and if I were REALLY unhappy about my perceived lack of contribution over the years I may even get a line of credit or a credit card of some sort, cuz he’ll end up paying half once the dust settles…….so, just a thought and I will read you regardless of you being paid or not. Best to you.

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  18. mimipz5wjj
    June 2, 2008 at 8:46 pm (9 years ago)

    30 is great, 40 is better.

    You do what you need to do. We’re here for you!

    Good luck and you are in my thoughts and prayers.

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  19. Shamelessly Sassy
    June 2, 2008 at 10:46 pm (9 years ago)

    I love bad wine. I’ll read all the paid reviews, by the way. 🙂

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  20. ~JJ!
    June 3, 2008 at 5:15 am (9 years ago)

    I’m always available with a good Barolo…Just gimme a call.

    I’ll never stop reading you, so do what you have to.

    Wish we lived close, I’d be right over.

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  21. Christina
    June 4, 2008 at 6:49 pm (9 years ago)

    Hey, you do what you have to do to make it work, right? I certainly understand.

    And wow, he’s holding all the money and leaving you bills? Please tell me you’re suing his ass for alimony?

    I wish I lived closer. I’d love to help out in some way.

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  22. Devilish Southern Belle
    June 5, 2008 at 12:35 am (9 years ago)

    Good for you! I’ll turn up to read your reviews with a glass of bad wine ;P

    Ditto what CharmingDriver said.

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  23. Queen of Shake Shake
    June 5, 2008 at 11:13 am (9 years ago)

    You do what you gotta do as far as money. It is your blog after all. And yeah, I agree. Divorce has a way of testing friendships on both sides of the fence.

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  24. Jerseygirl89
    June 7, 2008 at 8:31 am (9 years ago)

    You write whatever you need to write and don’t feel bad about it – one thing I discovered at 30 was that putting my wishes ahead of other people’s did NOT make me bad or selfish or obnoxious – it actually made me a better friend and daughter, as well as eventually making me a better wife and mother.

    Sending positive energy your way.

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  25. J
    June 10, 2008 at 3:16 pm (9 years ago)

    Personally, I think it’s fine. It’s not what I come here for, but I wouldn’t leave because of it either.

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  26. Mommy Daisy
    June 11, 2008 at 6:19 pm (9 years ago)

    I’m glad that you’re still around. You do what you gotta do. I’ll just be happy to see you blogging again. I hope that things start looking up for you quickly. It seems like you have a great attitude and can pull it together with what you’ve got.

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  27. Jo
    July 8, 2008 at 9:09 pm (9 years ago)

    I say you do what you have to. No one should judge you for having to bring in money for your family. It’s a BIG reason why I did paid posts for awhile. For me it was the fact that I’m disabled and can’t work but hate that my husband has to not only pay all the bills but also all the copays for my bazillion medications. So bringing in money helped until my disability kicked in.

    I refuse to be ashamed of any of that and you shouldn’t be either. I’ve always enjoyed your blog and will still enjoy it even with the paid posts. 🙂

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  28. Me
    August 29, 2008 at 11:18 am (9 years ago)

    I am 29 and contemplating divorce… although it is a substantially different path that has lead me to a similar juncture. Regardless, “eating good food and drinking good wine” are listed on my MySpace page as “Interests”. 😉

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